How to Agree to Disagree
Turning Conflict into Connection
De-escalate everyday tension
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Understand your emotional triggers
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Find common ground in a polarised world
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De-escalate everyday tension · Understand your emotional triggers · Find common ground in a polarised world ·
How to Agree to Disagree is a practical guide to managing conflict in everyday life — at work, in relationships, within families, and in yourself. Drawing on decades of experience, conflict mediator and psychotherapist Gabrielle Rifkind shares clear, practical tools to help you handle difficult conversations, improve communication, and resolve conflict with confidence. From workplace challenges to family dynamics, this accessible handbook helps you de-escalate tension, find common ground, and get along with (almost) anyone.
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"Compassionate, pragmatic wisdom"
– Alain de Botton
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"The future of humanity depends on peaceful cooperation. This practical and insightful book is what everyone needs to read to help us get there"
— Jeanette Winterson
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“Principled, pragmatic and powerful - truly a special book for our challenging times.”
- Philippe Sands
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"Tools to engage with conflicts... at home, at work, with friends and in the world"
— Susie Orbach
Where conflict shows up
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Within yourself — when emotions take over
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In everyday moments — when tension builds
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Relationships – partners, family conflict, communication, finances, and intimacy
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At home — with partners and family
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At work — when conversations feel difficult
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In friendships — when things go unsaid
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End of life – having difficult conversations with care, clarity, and compassion
Conversations on Conflict
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How to Agree to Disagree
Order How to Agree to Disagree and discover Gabrielle Rifkind’s practical, empowering guide to handling conflict with greater confidence, clarity, and understanding.
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Woman’s Hour: How to Have Difficult Conversations
Gabrielle Rifkind joins BBC Radio 4’s Woman’s Hour to explore how we approach difficult conversations in our personal lives, and why honest communication, empathy, and understanding matter more than ever.
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Bridging Divides: Navigating Conflict in a Polarised World
A look at the British Red Cross Bridging Divides podcast and the growing need for practical tools to manage conflict, improve communication, and find common ground.
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TED Talk: How to prevent — or stop — a war
In this TED Talk, Gabrielle Rifkind explores how conflict can be prevented — and even stopped — through inclusive negotiation and dialogue. Drawing on decades of experience in international conflict resolution, she highlights the role of communication, empathy, and cooperation in building lasting peace.
Disagreement is inevitable — at work, at home, in relationships. But most of us were never taught how to handle it. This is a practical guide to navigating conflict — without it escalating.
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